HURT : MY UNDERSTANDING OF THE FEELING AND NOT JUST THE WORD!!

I hate the feeling of being hurt like anyone else would and I always wonder if there is some kind of medicine or something that could make me immune to these devastating experiences. Hurt comes in various grades as in they have different sources: like by parents, brother/sister, husband/wife, BF/Gf , close friends , not so close friends, strangers etc etc. So the intensity to which u can be hurt most of the time is directly proportional to the source it comes from and the closeness of your relation to them. Well sometimes it so happens that people i don’t care a rats ass about hurt me , bloody hell(sowie for the abusive lingo here) how dare they say that ....but that i call it a “ego hurt”.

Oh yea I categorize hurt, so according to me there are different kinds of hurt:

- PHYSICAL HURT

- EMOTIONAL HURT/PSYCHOLOGICAL HURT

- EGO HURT

- SAD HURT

- SELF PITYING HURT

- COMBINATION HURT

- BIOLOGICAL HURT

I think by their name it is clear what exactly each feeling of hurt is all about,

PHYSICAL HURT obviously if someone smashes you across your face ....OUCHHHHH that hurts ehh!!!......Biologial is more to do with medical problems in your body or mind......... combination hurt is basically combination of rest of the hurts at a given point for e.g violent stab by your lover is combination hurt emotional and physical hurt ehhh ;) ..... And last but the most hurtful hurts of all the emotional hurt ......according to me it has subcategories which is based on situation and the source of hurt. For e.g a tiff between two colleagues phew ego clashes you get hurt u want to get back at him or her ..... more of a revengeful kinds with no love for the person in any piece of your body ,let alone heart. Now that is ego hurt....... source could be any.

Mostly with family, close friends, lovers and husband and wife it is more of the self pity or the sad hurt that comes into existence. Now Self pitying hurt is I think the most common emotional hurt that I or any oother human being indulges now and then, Whenever we make our happiness depend on someone else’s actions or reactions, we automatically are giving that person an upper hand on making us feel happy or the saddest person on planet earth. Its hurt we feel on purpose ...knowingly or unknowingly so that we have an excuse to grovel in self pity. AAHHH he said this to me L....how could he.......this happens when you think or build series of expectations from a person and they are not offering the same freely.....‘you feel sad, hurt”.....u feel u are being tortured;....ur not being loved.......It also happens when you demand something and it is not met. Basically here we try and impose our desires on them beyond the limits of their comforts and thus seeking a rejection from their side so that we blame them for our misery. You know this can happen knowingly or unknowingly.....rather most of the time we don’t realise we are indulging in activity that may hurt us. Its in our control.

Sad hurt on the other hand is not in our control it is unavoidable since it is the hurt that others give purposely even though our being good to them. It may be a product of their hatred or jealousy or pure sadistic pleasures they might achieve by projecting that onto us. Sad hurt is the hurt we feel when other people are just using us as an excuse to pity themselves. It’s not a fair hurt......and here i believe it may be because of KARMA ...like i might have done something earlier to get so hurt now..............It is life again you never know.