HURT : MY UNDERSTANDING OF THE FEELING AND NOT JUST THE WORD!!

I hate the feeling of being hurt like anyone else would and I always wonder if there is some kind of medicine or something that could make me immune to these devastating experiences. Hurt comes in various grades as in they have different sources: like by parents, brother/sister, husband/wife, BF/Gf , close friends , not so close friends, strangers etc etc. So the intensity to which u can be hurt most of the time is directly proportional to the source it comes from and the closeness of your relation to them. Well sometimes it so happens that people i don’t care a rats ass about hurt me , bloody hell(sowie for the abusive lingo here) how dare they say that ....but that i call it a “ego hurt”.

Oh yea I categorize hurt, so according to me there are different kinds of hurt:

- PHYSICAL HURT

- EMOTIONAL HURT/PSYCHOLOGICAL HURT

- EGO HURT

- SAD HURT

- SELF PITYING HURT

- COMBINATION HURT

- BIOLOGICAL HURT

I think by their name it is clear what exactly each feeling of hurt is all about,

PHYSICAL HURT obviously if someone smashes you across your face ....OUCHHHHH that hurts ehh!!!......Biologial is more to do with medical problems in your body or mind......... combination hurt is basically combination of rest of the hurts at a given point for e.g violent stab by your lover is combination hurt emotional and physical hurt ehhh ;) ..... And last but the most hurtful hurts of all the emotional hurt ......according to me it has subcategories which is based on situation and the source of hurt. For e.g a tiff between two colleagues phew ego clashes you get hurt u want to get back at him or her ..... more of a revengeful kinds with no love for the person in any piece of your body ,let alone heart. Now that is ego hurt....... source could be any.

Mostly with family, close friends, lovers and husband and wife it is more of the self pity or the sad hurt that comes into existence. Now Self pitying hurt is I think the most common emotional hurt that I or any oother human being indulges now and then, Whenever we make our happiness depend on someone else’s actions or reactions, we automatically are giving that person an upper hand on making us feel happy or the saddest person on planet earth. Its hurt we feel on purpose ...knowingly or unknowingly so that we have an excuse to grovel in self pity. AAHHH he said this to me L....how could he.......this happens when you think or build series of expectations from a person and they are not offering the same freely.....‘you feel sad, hurt”.....u feel u are being tortured;....ur not being loved.......It also happens when you demand something and it is not met. Basically here we try and impose our desires on them beyond the limits of their comforts and thus seeking a rejection from their side so that we blame them for our misery. You know this can happen knowingly or unknowingly.....rather most of the time we don’t realise we are indulging in activity that may hurt us. Its in our control.

Sad hurt on the other hand is not in our control it is unavoidable since it is the hurt that others give purposely even though our being good to them. It may be a product of their hatred or jealousy or pure sadistic pleasures they might achieve by projecting that onto us. Sad hurt is the hurt we feel when other people are just using us as an excuse to pity themselves. It’s not a fair hurt......and here i believe it may be because of KARMA ...like i might have done something earlier to get so hurt now..............It is life again you never know.

ASSORTED........ CONTINUED....

1) When you realize that you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to begin as soon as possible. :) that is so trueeee.....

2) I am very beautiful........both in reality and ma fairy tale world.......umm a little more beautiful in fairy tale world!!:O :P (by me )

3) Its all about loving your family......true + loving the animals....the environment etc etc.... (by me )

4) Love is giving sum1 the ability 2 destroy u but trusting them not 2

5) if 2 past lovers remain friends, they r either still in love or never were

6)You know it is love when all you want is that person to be happy ....even if you are not the part of that happiness.

7) If you really love someone the compromises dont feel lyk they r 1 ...... time, distance ....nothing can stand in the way ,,,,,....

8) Love is a feeling not a commitment....

9) Dont settle for the one you can live with.......wait for the one u cant live without

10) A sad thing in life is when you meet some one who means a lot to you ...only to find out it was never meant to be ....and u just have to let go

11) Time doesn't heal you.........it just leads to amnesia.... (by me )

12) Conditions don't tie you up when you are in love ...its just the trust 'that it will last' ties both the souls together. (by me)

....to be continued

ASSORTED BELIEFS AND FEELINGS

Sometimes you dont want to accept the reality even though u know it is the only wise thing to do .... ..its the only thing you dont want to believe.....u dont want to see for that moment!!! You create a wall for the practical you to enter your soul ....may be by choice or otherwise......i believe its the most foolish but the most beautifull wall created by our inner self ...something that we all call" subconcious mind"......much needed for our sanity in this world of unknown absoluteness!!! So here i am blogging my practical and utopian self......... certain things i believe irrespective of its consequences:

a) My fairytale world exists.......the difference is- my fairy tale world resumes every minute,After a weighty interval from real world!! ....my life fluctuates between the two worlds!! (by me)

b) Every moment you get ...is a chance for you to convert it to your Fairy Tale!! (by me)

c) You can fall in LOVE only once......rest is just over usage of the word LOVE!!(by me)

d) If you really love someone let them know else let them go... ...

e) Few Say "There Are MANY Fish in the Pond".. But i believe there is just one 'Nemo'!!!!

f) I miss him even when he's beside me because, I know that the reality will strike...and the moment will pass!! (by me)

g) Very few in this world know you ...rest just pretend that they know u!!!( by me)

h) Its not you who decides who your best friend is......its the other person who realises whether he or she is your best frnd......(its a two way thingy)!!! ( by me)

i) People who want to be together have to work really hard for that..........i dont belive in"if its meant to be it will be" (by me)

j) the sin i keep committing and can never get enough of : eating "chocolates"(by me)

k) If hes stupid enough to walk away you have to be smart enough to let him : i belive its true......

l) "Its really hard to wait for something u know may never happen but its even harder wen u know its everything u ever wanted."

m) Sometimes life gives you what you want.....rest of the time you have to work hard to get what you want (by me)

n) i believe in Karma .....what ever you do comes back to you..........."some times i curse myself for believing it!!":P (by me)

o) anyone can catch ur eye....it takes sumone special.....to catch ur heart

p) Love is like a mirage....most of the time u think it exists!! ( by me)

q) My world revolves around love.......its just that, i wonder if i am the only one loving people!!(by me)

r) I believe in ignoring the reality sometimes according to my convenience!! (by me)

s) I believe saying the truth is the most easiest thing to do...it requires less of ur energy as well!! ;) (by me)

t) I believe if some one doesnt care for you ...,... either he doesnt know enough of you or he knows too much of you!! ( by me)

u) i love listening to someones problems....and i love believing that i can solve all of it !!! (by me)

v) I feel sad when people i knew at one point in time...become strangers to my eyes......i also believe i knowingly am committing the unrepairable crime!! (by me)

w) People who are really close to you are the ones who can hurt you the most and ironically are the people who you can hate the most. (by me)

x)The most easiest thing to do is to hate yourself.... ...and the most difficult thing to do is to find genuine you. (by me)

y) I just never want to become fat.....but run away from the existing one!! (by me)

z) It is easy to say i understand.....but difficult to realize the fact !! (by me)

to be continuedddd.........